Woman Breaks Off Friends-With-Benefits Relationship, Faces Retaliation as He Can't Take “No” For An Answer and Blocks Her Balcony Renovation Request through HOA Committee

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    Font - Posted by u/YourInfidelity In Me 9 hours ago Ç TIFU by fooling around with a neighbor who's on the HOA board 3
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    Font - I know this is a first world problem. It still sucks.
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    Font - TL;DR: My balcony furniture got rejected by the HOA and I highly suspect it is because my ex-FWB is being a petty beeyotch. I'm also out hundreds of dollars because the cushions that were rejected are non-refundable. Maybe I should have agreed to his request until after my outdoor furniture was approved...
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    Font - I had fooled around with a neighbor who happens to sit on the board of our building's HOA. It hadn't been an issue until recently when I declined to fool around with him.
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    Font - I learned that he had been dating some girl, and as far as I can tell, she does not know that he has an (ex)-FWB in the building. Feeling uncomfortable about the FWB I told him very arrangement, politely what my reasons were for saying NO to a request for a "quick beej". I had to remind him very calmly and rationally that he cannot "grandfather in" casual sex when he is in a relationship with someone else. Life does not work that way.
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    Font - Well, I think he's angry. I can't prove it without a lot of expensive legal fees that I don't think is worth the squeeze. In short, he sits on the HOA board, and I am pretty certain that he is an influential voice on the architectural improvement committee. This is the committee that residents have to submit unit alteration applications to for approval (yes, even for something like wall mounting TVs or putting a planter on the balcony).
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    Font - One of the items that needs pre- approval is outdoor furniture. I imagined it was pretty pro-forma: fill out the application, make sure it is heavy enough that it won't fly off the balcony and hurt someone on the street, and bam - approved. When I saw this set that I liked for an outdoor refresh, I placed the order because I thought it would be approved without problems. It was a limited sale and a very good deal.
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    Font - Then I got the rejection on Friday. To make matters worse, the furniture had already been delivered because it took the HOA forever to review the application. The reason the committee provided was that the color of the sunbrella cushions was not "consistent with the aesthetic of the common spaces".
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    Font - I immediately replied with a question: why did unit X get approved for their teal cushions and mine got denied? Their reply was that it was an oversight, moving forward they would not allow unapproved colors anymore.
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    Font - I just KNOW it was him. I can't prove it without getting an attorney and alleging inconsistent application of HOA rules, depose them and find out. But again, the juice is not worth the squeeze.
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    Font - I can get new cushions that are neutral, but I can't return my fun cushions and I'm out several hundred dollars because of it. This sucks so much.
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    Font - 8 hr. ago MyWifeDont Know ItsMe If you want to resolve your HOA approval issue quickly, send an email to the official email account asking if your recent refusal of approval was related to you refusing to give a BJ to a sitting member of the HOA board and CC a local attorney.
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    Font - ryan05856 hr. ago Do you have the "quick beej" request in writing, like a text? To be clear, don't use it as blackmail leverage, but it would be proof that the exchange did take place.

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